Calico's Advice Column

Hey I Want to know how I was born my dad want tell me im 16!

Sat, 12 May 2012 21:09:35 -0400

Simply and truthfully, he has sex with your mother…

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Thu, 03 May 2012 18:26:18 -0400

I'm having HSP, and it's no fun when people call me weak or sesitive, but I don't know how to tell them. How should I do so?

Thu, 03 May 2012 18:00:12 -0400

Find some good websites or books about it and read up on your condition, then when people make fun of you, tell them and explain it straight out.

I personally didn’t know what HSP was, so I had to look it up.

http://www.squidoo.com/highly-sensitive

After reading up on HSP, I don’t feel like its fair to make fun of someone with something they can’t control.

Which is the least painful form of sex?

Thu, 03 May 2012 17:34:14 -0400

http://askcalico.tumblr.com/post/22045024277/is-sex-painful

http://askcalico.tumblr.com/post/21408649360/what-is-sex-exactly

Both of the above links may help but to answer your question; Masturbation is the least painful because you alone control everything. Oral Sex is probably the least painful as long as no teeth are uses as oral mostly involves licking and light sucking.

muh boyfrand iz tha onli tru frand i gotz in tha Ntire world. i getz scaredd becuz he culd leve me at ani timez. do u think thatz healthy?

Thu, 03 May 2012 17:26:30 -0400

I think you need to find some more friends around your neighborhood/town/school. but for sake of your question, No I dont think that is healthy. If he really loves/likes you, he wont just up and leave and if you two don’t last, then hopefully ya’ll would still be friends.

killingmyskeletons: Shoulda taken this advice for myself…damn...

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 14:38:24 -0400

killingmyskeletons:

Shoulda taken this advice for myself…damn idiot.

Very Good Advice for Everyone. <3

Sun, 29 Apr 2012 10:01:51 -0400

Very Good Advice for Everyone. <3

Is sex painful?

Sun, 29 Apr 2012 09:05:44 -0400

Experiencing pain the first time you have sex is quite common. There are a variety of reasons why this may happen. Your hymen (a thin membrane of tissue that partially blocks the vaginal opening) was still intact[which can be broken other ways besides sex]. Or you are not sufficiently aroused. When you’re turned on, the vaginal canal lengthens and expands (so your man’s penis can fit), and you produce lubrication (to prevent uncomfortable friction from his thrusting). It’s also possible that you are just nervous (after all, it would be your first time), which would cause your vaginal muscles to tighten, making penetration more difficult.

Their are other reasons sex may be painful, but that is the most common. Otherwise, sex can be very enjoyable when you are ready…

What's the best way to make asthma not as bad?

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 16:36:20 -0400

Many different things can make asthma worse, or bring on
asthma symptoms. These are different for each person.
Sometimes two or more things work together to bring on
asthma symptoms.
Find out what things make your asthma
worse. Then you can learn how to
avoid these things. Some common things that
bring on asthma symptoms are described below.

Irritants
Things that bother or irritate the nose, throat,
or airways are called irritants. Common things
like smoke, sprays, odors and air pollution can
make asthma worse.

Allergies
An allergy is when your
body has a reaction to something you breathe or
eat. Signs of allergies are itchy eyes, a runny nose
and skin rashes. Allergies also can swell up the
airways. This can bring on asthma symptoms.
1. Outdoor Allergies
From tree, grass and weed pollens and mold spores.
2. Indoor Mold (mildew)
Mold that grows on damp surfaces.
3. Warm-blooded Animals
Including dogs, cats, small rodents and birds.
These animals leave behind dander, urine, feces
and saliva that can make allergies worse.
4. House Dust Mites
Insects so tiny that you cannot see them. They are
found in humid climates. Mites live in dust from
mattresses, pillows, carpets, fabric-covered furniture,
bed covers, clothes and soft toys.
5. Cockroaches
Cockroaches are common in big cities and humid
climates.
6. Food Allergies
Food allergies are common in children ages 5 and
under. Food allergies usually do not bring on asthma
symptoms, but in rare cases they do. Nuts,
eggs, milk, seafood and peanuts are foods that
people may be allergic to.
Exercise
Many people have asthma symptoms while
running and playing. They may cough or
wheeze (make a whistling sound in breathing).
They may feel short of breath during or after
exercise. They may tire quickly. This is
called exercise-induced asthma.
People with exercise-induced asthma need to
stay active. Exercise and sports will help them
grow up strong and healthy.

Sickness
The cold and flu season can be hard for people
with asthma. A cold, flu, or virus can bring on
asthma symptoms. Good hand washing is the best way to stop the
spread of germs.

Sinusitis
The sinuses are air pockets inside the head.
Sometimes these air pockets swell up and get
puffy. Then extra mucus gets clogged in them.
This is called sinusitis.
Sinusitis can bring on asthma symptoms, especially
at night. A bad case of sinusitis can lead to
infection. A sinus infection may need to be
treated with medicine called antibiotics.
It is important to keep the sinuses healthy. Good
sinus care means keeping the swelling down and
helping mucus drain out of the sinuses.
Weather
Certain types of weather may bother your asthma, such as:
• Wind
• Rain and damp weather
• Cold winter air
• Hot, dry weather
• Days before and after a big storm

Should I get my ears pierced or not? What are the pros and cons?

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 15:43:30 -0400

Getting your ears pieced depends on your parents [if your underage], age, where you are gonna get them pieced and personal preference.

The main pros of getting ones ears pierced is the jewelry aspect. Earrings can make a person’s appearance much more better. There’s something about those pieces of jewelry that can compliment an outfit well, and make you look more appealing. It can also teach a person responsibility, especially a child.

The cons include infection. Some people do get infections from ear piercings due to bad equipment used.

I'm having a problem with my friends. I'm always feeling left out by them. They make me feel awkward, shoot down my opinions and act like I'm stupid. They insult me for being who I am. I'm called a slut, fat, and, the worst; a fag by the people I care about. I don't know what to do. Eh, this isn't a question, so I feel bad for submitting it.

Sat, 28 Apr 2012 15:37:46 -0400

Hate to be blunt, but those people are not your friends. Friends do not treat each other like that.

It’s better to have no friends than people who treat you badly. Don’t let someone destroy your spirit. They are the losers for putting you down. You just need to build up your confidence. Find something to do that interests you… maybe sports, playing a musical instrument, or focus on your studies/work. Find things that you like to do, focus on your own happiness and don’t let others get you down.

I'm up for some big exams in a couple weeks - have any advice to lessen the nerves? And last minute tips to remember the facts? Thanks.

Thu, 26 Apr 2012 17:04:39 -0400

Stress is your body’s warning mechanism — it’s a signal that helps you prepare for something important that’s about to happen. So use it to your advantage. Instead of reacting to the stress by dreading, complaining, or fretting about the test with friends, take an active approach. Let stress remind you to study well in advance of a test. Chances are, you’ll keep your stress from spinning out of control. After all, nobody ever feels stressed out by thoughts that they might do well on a test.

Connect it - make connections with what you already know to memorize fast.
See it - visualize the concept to memorize fast and remember more.
Chant it - (Re) Produce the material out loud to memorize faster.
Write it - reproduce the material in writing to remember more
Mock it - use catchy puns and phrases to memorize faster.

Repetition is the key to memory. If you want to memorize faster, repeat things more. Avoid cramming in at the last minute. Space between repetitions is the key to long term memory improvement. So, if you want to remember something beyond tomorrow, place space in between repetitions.

Good Luck!

My BFF Is A Stripper She Also Has Sex alot How Can I Be Like Her?

Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:36:00 -0400

A guy friend is giving quite a few subtle hints to me, staying around me, hugging etc. I like him as a friend, but not as a relationship... How can I say, nicely, no?

Fri, 20 Apr 2012 17:21:04 -0400

There may be a ‘nice’ way to give someone the brush off, (for a given value of nice) but I don’t think there is one that won’t sting. No one likes to feel rejected, and it takes remarkable courage to make a cold approach like that.
Keep this in mind when giving your response: honesty. Tell him the truth about your feelings to his approach.

How do guys get boners? and when do they do away??

Fri, 20 Apr 2012 14:55:40 -0400

Going through puberty, almost anything can and does cause erections. Later, sexual stimulation cause the brain to release chemicals that cause it.

From a scientific perspective, when males get turned on, hormones in thier brains tell the muscles in our abdomen to loosen so that blood can flow into the spongey tissues of thier penis. Contrary to popular beliefe, it is not bone in thier penis, but just blood-filled spongey tissue.

The erection will go away pretty quickly if you ignore it. You can sing a song in your head, try to say the alphabet backward, or take a cold shower. Many males I have spoken to perfer the tuck-into-waistband trick, but I hear others have success with thinking of their [insert family memeber] naked.

Oh my gosh. I am SOO angry! SO, theres this one guy and he was flirting with me and I really like him, but now he is flirting with my BEST FRIEND!! what do i do??

Fri, 20 Apr 2012 13:53:51 -0400

Guys flirt with more than one girl, just like girls flirt with more than one guy. Perhps you didnt give the right clues that you were interested so he move out to another. Talk to this guy or least give the hint that you are interested. Or perhaps he is just a player and flirts with everyone just to get a rise out them. There are so many possiablities. He may have gotten the hint you’re interested and is now playing hard to get, or he is flirting with your friend to get you jealous [which by he sound of your letter, its working!]. I’d say flirt back or come right out and say like him. Guys aren’t the greatest with subtle hints. Good luck!

My dad left me and my mom before I was born, then he appeared 9 years later, and we started to talk. Then he disappeared for a year or so and did the same thing. Then he was put into jail for not paying child support and Id go to see him there a lot. I felt happy being around him then.. but of coarse he disappeard again. Now it's almost my 14th birthday and he wants to be in my life again, but I'm done with his games. I dont know if I want to let him or not, what are your opinions? ~Jaide

Fri, 20 Apr 2012 13:44:03 -0400

Personally, I’m a daughter of a single [widowed] dad, so this is hard to understand what you are going through.

In my opinion, its pretty shoddy of him to do what he is doing, but I would say the next time you talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel with what he does and give him the options of staying in or out of your life. Explain to him that he gets your hopes up, then when he leaves you get crushed. Explain what you want and need out of a father. Perhaps ask him why he leaves and then comes back. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Sometimes its Mothers and Fathers that doesnt get a long so one thinks they be better off just staying away. What the parent doesn’t realize is that hurts the child. Whatever happens, I hope all goes well and you have your father in your life. Good Luck Jaide and Goddess bless you.

I'm so nervous about starting high school in September! D: Any tips? Thanks <3

Thu, 19 Apr 2012 22:31:00 -0400

Rule number one of high school: Don’t care so much about what other people think of you. I know that’s hard advice to take and I was definitely as nervous as you going into freshman year, but I really wish I’d taken those words of advice. Be yourself, haters are gonna hate you whether or not you’re faking who you are.

Confidence is key. Just act totally casual and don’t seem so formal when you’re talking to people, no matter how nervous you may be, just try to act like you’re totally comfortable with the situation. If you’re looking to strike up conversation, the best thing is to talk to people who you recognize from other classes and around your locker, these are the people you’ll end up befriending anyways. just start off with “Hey, don’t we have (class) together” or compliment what they’re wearing.

When it comes to academics, don’t stress to much; the teachers ease you into it so much, the first two weeks are like 4th grade again and most of the material is review. Freshman academics are pretty easy throughout the year as long as you keep up.

Trust me, I was right where you’re at when I was a freshman and I was extremely nervous. Just chill, act confident, and dress in your best outfit, if you look good you’ll feel more confident. You’ll find friends within the first few days and you won’t have a single worry socially by the first two weeks. Good Luck and remember rule #1!

Is it wrong to be sad if your fish dies? ): Others tease me about feeling sad for fish, insects etc... Thanks.

Thu, 19 Apr 2012 22:05:01 -0400

Its always sad to lose an animal no matter what kind it is. Your friends probably tease you because they do not understand why you would get upset of a fish or bug. All life is important wether it is a horse, dog, fish or a tiny insect. So no, I do not believe it is wrong to be sad for a lesser pet/animal to die.

Dear Calico,
I'm a single 22 year old male. Is it possible for me to masturbate too much?
Likin Rosy Palm

Thu, 19 Apr 2012 21:02:52 -0400

Dear Rosy Palm Liker,
Only if you are more concerned about earning an orgasm than a paycheck.

Calico's Advice Column

Hey I Want to know how I was born my dad want tell me im 16!

gemini-dragon-gifs:

I'm having HSP, and it's no fun when people call me weak or sesitive, but I don't know how to tell them. How should I do so?

Which is the least painful form of sex?

muh boyfrand iz tha onli tru frand i gotz in tha Ntire world. i getz scaredd becuz he culd leve me at ani timez. do u think thatz healthy?

killingmyskeletons: Shoulda taken this advice for myself…damn...

Very Good Advice for Everyone. <3

Is sex painful?

What's the best way to make asthma not as bad?

Should I get my ears pierced or not? What are the pros and cons?

I'm up for some big exams in a couple weeks - have any advice to lessen the nerves? And last minute tips to remember the facts? Thanks.

My BFF Is A Stripper She Also Has Sex alot How Can I Be Like Her?

A guy friend is giving quite a few subtle hints to me, staying around me, hugging etc. I like him as a friend, but not as a relationship... How can I say, nicely, no?

How do guys get boners? and when do they do away??

Oh my gosh. I am SOO angry! SO, theres this one guy and he was flirting with me and I really like him, but now he is flirting with my BEST FRIEND!! what do i do??

I'm so nervous about starting high school in September! D: Any tips? Thanks <3

Is it wrong to be sad if your fish dies? ): Others tease me about feeling sad for fish, insects etc... Thanks.

Dear Calico, I'm a single 22 year old male. Is it possible for me to masturbate too much? *Likin Rosy Palm*

Dear Calico,
I'm a single 22 year old male. Is it possible for me to masturbate too much?
Likin Rosy Palm