Both of the above links may help but to answer your question; Masturbation is the least painful because you alone control everything. Oral Sex is probably the least painful as long as no teeth are uses as oral mostly involves licking and light sucking.
muh boyfrand iz tha onli tru frand i gotz in tha Ntire world. i getz scaredd becuz he culd leve me at ani timez. do u think thatz healthy?
I think you need to find some more friends around your neighborhood/town/school. but for sake of your question, No I dont think that is healthy. If he really loves/likes you, he wont just up and leave and if you two don’t last, then hopefully ya’ll would still be friends.
Experiencing pain the first time you have sex is quite common. There are a variety of reasons why this may happen. Your hymen (a thin membrane of tissue that partially blocks the vaginal opening) was still intact[which can be broken other ways besides sex]. Or you are not sufficiently aroused. When you’re turned on, the vaginal canal lengthens and expands (so your man’s penis can fit), and you produce lubrication (to prevent uncomfortable friction from his thrusting). It’s also possible that you are just nervous (after all, it would be your first time), which would cause your vaginal muscles to tighten, making penetration more difficult.
Their are other reasons sex may be painful, but that is the most common. Otherwise, sex can be very enjoyable when you are ready…
Many different things can make asthma worse, or bring on asthma symptoms. These are different for each person. Sometimes two or more things work together to bring on asthma symptoms. Find out what things make your asthma worse. Then you can learn how to avoid these things. Some common things that bring on asthma symptoms are described below.
Irritants Things that bother or irritate the nose, throat, or airways are called irritants. Common things like smoke, sprays, odors and air pollution can make asthma worse.
Allergies An allergy is when your body has a reaction to something you breathe or eat. Signs of allergies are itchy eyes, a runny nose and skin rashes. Allergies also can swell up the airways. This can bring on asthma symptoms. 1. Outdoor Allergies From tree, grass and weed pollens and mold spores. 2. Indoor Mold (mildew) Mold that grows on damp surfaces. 3. Warm-blooded Animals Including dogs, cats, small rodents and birds. These animals leave behind dander, urine, feces and saliva that can make allergies worse. 4. House Dust Mites Insects so tiny that you cannot see them. They are found in humid climates. Mites live in dust from mattresses, pillows, carpets, fabric-covered furniture, bed covers, clothes and soft toys. 5. Cockroaches Cockroaches are common in big cities and humid climates. 6. Food Allergies Food allergies are common in children ages 5 and under. Food allergies usually do not bring on asthma symptoms, but in rare cases they do. Nuts, eggs, milk, seafood and peanuts are foods that people may be allergic to. Exercise Many people have asthma symptoms while running and playing. They may cough or wheeze (make a whistling sound in breathing). They may feel short of breath during or after exercise. They may tire quickly. This is called exercise-induced asthma. People with exercise-induced asthma need to stay active. Exercise and sports will help them grow up strong and healthy.
Sickness The cold and flu season can be hard for people with asthma. A cold, flu, or virus can bring on asthma symptoms. Good hand washing is the best way to stop the spread of germs.
Sinusitis The sinuses are air pockets inside the head. Sometimes these air pockets swell up and get puffy. Then extra mucus gets clogged in them. This is called sinusitis. Sinusitis can bring on asthma symptoms, especially at night. A bad case of sinusitis can lead to infection. A sinus infection may need to be treated with medicine called antibiotics. It is important to keep the sinuses healthy. Good sinus care means keeping the swelling down and helping mucus drain out of the sinuses. Weather Certain types of weather may bother your asthma, such as: • Wind • Rain and damp weather • Cold winter air • Hot, dry weather • Days before and after a big storm
Should I get my ears pierced or not? What are the pros and cons?
Getting your ears pieced depends on your parents [if your underage], age, where you are gonna get them pieced and personal preference.
The main pros of getting ones ears pierced is the jewelry aspect. Earrings can make a person’s appearance much more better. There’s something about those pieces of jewelry that can compliment an outfit well, and make you look more appealing. It can also teach a person responsibility, especially a child.
The cons include infection. Some people do get infections from ear piercings due to bad equipment used.
I'm having a problem with my friends. I'm always feeling left out by them. They make me feel awkward, shoot down my opinions and act like I'm stupid. They insult me for being who I am. I'm called a slut, fat, and, the worst; a fag by the people I care about. I don't know what to do. Eh, this isn't a question, so I feel bad for submitting it.
Hate to be blunt, but those people are not your friends. Friends do not treat each other like that.
It’s better to have no friends than people who treat you badly. Don’t let someone destroy your spirit. They are the losers for putting you down. You just need to build up your confidence. Find something to do that interests you… maybe sports, playing a musical instrument, or focus on your studies/work. Find things that you like to do, focus on your own happiness and don’t let others get you down.
I'm up for some big exams in a couple weeks - have any advice to lessen the nerves? And last minute tips to remember the facts? Thanks.
Stress is your body’s warning mechanism — it’s a signal that helps you prepare for something important that’s about to happen. So use it to your advantage. Instead of reacting to the stress by dreading, complaining, or fretting about the test with friends, take an active approach. Let stress remind you to study well in advance of a test. Chances are, you’ll keep your stress from spinning out of control. After all, nobody ever feels stressed out by thoughts that they might do well on a test.
Connect it - make connections with what you already know to memorize fast.
See it - visualize the concept to memorize fast and remember more.
Chant it - (Re) Produce the material out loud to memorize faster.
Write it - reproduce the material in writing to remember more
Mock it - use catchy puns and phrases to memorize faster.
Repetition is the key to memory. If you want to memorize faster, repeat things more. Avoid cramming in at the last minute. Space between repetitions is the key to long term memory improvement. So, if you want to remember something beyond tomorrow, place space in between repetitions.
A guy friend is giving quite a few subtle hints to me, staying around me, hugging etc. I like him as a friend, but not as a relationship... How can I say, nicely, no?
There may be a ‘nice’ way to give someone the brush off, (for a given value of nice) but I don’t think there is one that won’t sting. No one likes to feel rejected, and it takes remarkable courage to make a cold approach like that. Keep this in mind when giving your response: honesty. Tell him the truth about your feelings to his approach.
How do guys get boners? and when do they do away??
Going through puberty, almost anything can and does cause erections. Later, sexual stimulation cause the brain to release chemicals that cause it.
From a scientific perspective, when males get turned on, hormones in thier brains tell the muscles in our abdomen to loosen so that blood can flow into the spongey tissues of thier penis. Contrary to popular beliefe, it is not bone in thier penis, but just blood-filled spongey tissue.
The erection will go away pretty quickly if you ignore it. You can sing a song in your head, try to say the alphabet backward, or take a cold shower. Many males I have spoken to perfer the tuck-into-waistband trick, but I hear others have success with thinking of their [insert family memeber] naked.
Oh my gosh. I am SOO angry! SO, theres this one guy and he was flirting with me and I really like him, but now he is flirting with my BEST FRIEND!! what do i do??
Guys flirt with more than one girl, just like girls flirt with more than one guy. Perhps you didnt give the right clues that you were interested so he move out to another. Talk to this guy or least give the hint that you are interested. Or perhaps he is just a player and flirts with everyone just to get a rise out them. There are so many possiablities. He may have gotten the hint you’re interested and is now playing hard to get, or he is flirting with your friend to get you jealous [which by he sound of your letter, its working!]. I’d say flirt back or come right out and say like him. Guys aren’t the greatest with subtle hints. Good luck!
My dad left me and my mom before I was born, then he appeared 9 years later, and we started to talk. Then he disappeared for a year or so and did the same thing. Then he was put into jail for not paying child support and Id go to see him there a lot. I felt happy being around him then.. but of coarse he disappeard again. Now it's almost my 14th birthday and he wants to be in my life again, but I'm done with his games. I dont know if I want to let him or not, what are your opinions? ~Jaide
Personally, I’m a daughter of a single [widowed] dad, so this is hard to understand what you are going through.
In my opinion, its pretty shoddy of him to do what he is doing, but I would say the next time you talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel with what he does and give him the options of staying in or out of your life. Explain to him that he gets your hopes up, then when he leaves you get crushed. Explain what you want and need out of a father. Perhaps ask him why he leaves and then comes back. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Sometimes its Mothers and Fathers that doesnt get a long so one thinks they be better off just staying away. What the parent doesn’t realize is that hurts the child. Whatever happens, I hope all goes well and you have your father in your life. Good Luck Jaide and Goddess bless you.
I'm so nervous about starting high school in September! D: Any tips? Thanks <3
Rule number one of high school: Don’t care so much about what other people think of you. I know that’s hard advice to take and I was definitely as nervous as you going into freshman year, but I really wish I’d taken those words of advice. Be yourself, haters are gonna hate you whether or not you’re faking who you are.
Confidence is key. Just act totally casual and don’t seem so formal when you’re talking to people, no matter how nervous you may be, just try to act like you’re totally comfortable with the situation. If you’re looking to strike up conversation, the best thing is to talk to people who you recognize from other classes and around your locker, these are the people you’ll end up befriending anyways. just start off with “Hey, don’t we have (class) together” or compliment what they’re wearing.
When it comes to academics, don’t stress to much; the teachers ease you into it so much, the first two weeks are like 4th grade again and most of the material is review. Freshman academics are pretty easy throughout the year as long as you keep up.
Trust me, I was right where you’re at when I was a freshman and I was extremely nervous. Just chill, act confident, and dress in your best outfit, if you look good you’ll feel more confident. You’ll find friends within the first few days and you won’t have a single worry socially by the first two weeks. Good Luck and remember rule #1!
Is it wrong to be sad if your fish dies? ): Others tease me about feeling sad for fish, insects etc... Thanks.
Its always sad to lose an animal no matter what kind it is. Your friends probably tease you because they do not understand why you would get upset of a fish or bug. All life is important wether it is a horse, dog, fish or a tiny insect. So no, I do not believe it is wrong to be sad for a lesser pet/animal to die.
I've been dating my boyfriend for more than a year, and we live together now. Things are great: He's supportive, and our sex life is fantastic. BUT he doesnt trust me, and he makes comments about my 'other boyfriends'. Whats his problem?
Ah, the T word. That can be tricky for guys. I don’t know your boyfriends dating history, but it would not surprise me if he’s been burned in past relationships. All it takes is one cheating ex to break his heart and he’s forever suspicious of all other girls he dates. He might also have some abandonment issues. Then again, is it possiable that you’re doing something to make him distrustful? Like do you see your old boyfriends often? Or do you talk about them all the time? Those kinds of things can put even the most stable, trusting boyfriend on edge. If, after being totally honest with yourself, you can’t pinpoint anything you might be doing to contribute to his jealousy, you should say something to him about it. Next time he makes one of those comments, ask him what he’s basing his feelings on. If he can’t come up with one valid reason for his accusation, it might snap some sense into him. In the meantime, now that you know he has trust issues, you might make a little more effort to reaffirm that the state of your union is just fine. The occasional spontaneous kiss or a random ‘I really love you’ will start to put his mind at ease. The more you can assure him he has nothing to worry about, the more trusting he will be.
My mans ex tried to break us up by telling people that they recently slept together. I know they didnt, but I'm still having a hard time trusting him. He thinks I'm out of control and got mad when I asked for his email password. Am I being irrational or should he understand what I am going through?
If you “know they didn’t”, why are you acting like they did? Either you trust your boyfriend or you don’t-you cant say you think nothing happened and treat him as though you think he’s guilty. I dont blame him for refusing to open up his email account to you. Its a little like asking to look at his journal; he could have personal stuff in there that has nothing to do with his ex or any other woman. Think about it: Even assume you’re faithful, would you want him to read your email? Your boyfriend defintely could have handled this better. Rather than calling you out of control, he should have called his ex and told her she was way out of line. He also could have done a better job of assuring you that she’s a liar. But you have to remember that letting this evil ex make you paranoid and angry, you are playing right into her hands. Like you said, she’s trying to break you up. So dont make drama where there is none or you may be giving the psycho excatly what her little black heart desires.
My wife states she is dissatisfied with our marital relations. She says that I am less equipped than most men and that I need to find ways to compensate. She controls me and goes off to have relations with other men whom she says are more satisfying. She constantly degrades me. I really want to please her, but she just laughs. What can I do?
Sir, If your wife is controlling you and having sex with other men …you have a much bigger problem than equipment size.
The kind of disrespect and dishonor that is occurring in you marriage is bald, in-your-face adultery. I recommend that you see a counselor or a minister to discuss your marriage and see if there is anything to salvage.
You might also explore why you permit someone to treat you so poorly.
Whatever you do, get out of that relationship. Leave her and find someone that will love you cause if they truly love you, size won’t matter! She is totally disrespecting you and you need to be a little aggressive. Put your foot down. It will either work because she may want you to be more aggressive but I would leave her. Once she has been w/ someone else, she is no longer yours. It might be a hard thing to do but in the end, you’ll be happier. You have to sacrifice and work for good things to happen and they will. You will find someone that will treat you the same way you treat them. Be strong and you can do it. You will see you deserve better. She has already broken your wedding vows and you will know, it is because of her, not you.
1. Vaginal Sex. Vaginal sex is what most people think of as “sex” - specifically, when a man’s penis enters a woman’s vagina. It’s the only form of sex that can lead to pregnancy, and it can spread sexually transmitted diseases (STD) too.
2. Oral Sex. Oral sex is any kind of sex that involves contact between mouth and genitals. Oral sex can’t get you pregnant, but it can spread the same STDs that vaginal sex can - which means that if you want to do it safely, you must use a condom or a dental dam.
3. Anal Sex. Anal sex is any type of sex that involves pentrating someone’s anus. It carries the same risks of disease as vaginal sex and oral sex.
4. Masturbation Masturbation means touching yourself in order to feel sexual pleasure. Since you’re doing it by yourself, there’s no risk of pregnancy or STD - making masturbation the safest form of sex there is.
5. Mutual masturbation Mutual masturbation means masturbating in front of a partner. Since there’s no genital contact between you and the other person, it’s a safe form of sex that can’t spread STDs or lead to pregnancy.
Any Questions about any of the above. feel free to ask….
Always have a condom and never have unprotected sex until you know your partner. If you feel you can trust them, (after a while) then go ahead. Masterbation is usually used as a last resort. And not many people do mutual masterbation unless they have been together for a while and want to try something new. I don’t like anal sex but some do. Usually oral sex leads to vaginal sex except when she doesn’t really want to or she is on her monthly, then it’s only oral sex for him. Either way, you should always have a condom unless you really know your partner. I don’t know what a dental dam is so I can’t suggest it. Don’t do it if you don’t know the person. There are too many STD’s out there and a lot of them, there is no cure for some, so don’t risk it for someone you don’t know. It is not worth it. Treat sex like an amusement ride. You wait hours for a few seconds of WEEEEE!
I brought a guy home after our second date, and when things started to heat up, I grabbed a condom...but he stopped me and said he wanted to take it slow! I was shoked and offended. Could he be telling the truth or was he not that into me?
Guys can’t win. If they go fast, girls think its bad, and if guys take it slow, girls think its bad. What the hell do girls want from guys? Admittedly, his behavior is unsusal. Whent he heat is on, most guys go full-speed ahead, even if deep down they know its not a good idea. But why do you assume he stopped because he wasn’t into you? It sounds like you may have the issue, not him. Maybe he has performance anxiety. Maybe he’s a virgin. Maybe he’s gay. Maybe he has a STD and put ont he brakes as a courtesy. Or maybe just maybe, he was telling the truth and worries that if you cross the line too early. it’ll ruin potential for a real relationship. Why is it cool for girls not to want to go to fast, but whenguys do it, they’re weird and insensitive? Listen, you clearly like this guy, so give him another shot. You have to admire a dude who has the willpower to stop you mid-condom reach. That is not your stereotypical male. If by the fourth or fifth date he’s still “taking it slow” and you are tired of waiting, either talk to him about it or by all means, move on and find someone who is a better for you.
I hate my boyfriends family. How do I handle being around them?
This is a common problem. Alway remember: You grew up in a family too. As much as his family may be aproblem, yours are too. Unless his parents are utterly rude or nasty, just fake it. Who knows? Maybe if you pretend to like them long enough, eventually you will.
My parents never say, "I love you." We're just not an affectionate family, but when I hear my friends say, "I love you, too," on the phone to their parents, it makes me sad. :(
All families are different. Just because your family isn’t particularly affectionate doesn’t mean your parents don’t love you! They do love you—more than you know. But, it’s understandable you’re still sad. Everyone needs to be reminded they’re loved–especially by parents.
Likely, your parents were raised in homes where love wasn’t verbalized so they’re not used to saying, “I love you.” But surely they show you they love you in other ways? After a bad day, will Mom whip up your favorite spaghetti-and-meatballs dinner just for you? When was the last time they missed one of your soccer games? Most everything they do, they do because they love you—even if they don’t say it. But, unless you say something, it’s unlikely they know how you feel. It’s not too late for things to change.
Say, “I love you,” to your parents before going to bed, or hug your mom when you get home from school. They should be thrilled to reciprocate!
A friend broke off his engagment, and it seems to me he is paying alot of attention to my girlfriend. Perhaps its unintentional or he means nothing by it, but he finds little ways to touch her shirt or sit closer to her than me, and he recently invited her, not me, over to fix his computer. I trust my girlfriend, but I have a bad feeling. What should I do?
Trust her, but trust your instincts too-and share your intution with your girlfriend. Ask her if she’s beginning to feel ensnared by your friends neediness. Put her on the alert, and stay there yourself. Remind her that you are a team. And definitely go along as a firewall on the computer job.
What should I do to make myself like spicy things? ;w;
Start with foods that are only slightly more spicy than what you are currently used to. As you eat these foods, note which spices you like, which you don’t, and whether they cause any side effects. Once you grow comfortable with the new level of spice in your food, move up to the next. As you move up, go with those spices, whether for heat or flavor, that you prefer. Continue increasing the amount of spice in your food as you adjust to each new level. However, give yourself time to adapt to each increase in flavor and heat. As you do so, you will open up a wide range of food options you might never have considered trying.
What should I do if my friend is making me feel bad about getting into a better school than they did? ):
So you have a friend that make you feel inferior? Yes, it is a choice to allow this person’s comments to make you feel inferior, but sometimes us more sensitive types are simply not as resilient when it comes to critical and sarcastic remarks. Some thrive off of it, some do not. If her comments continue to cross the line then you need to consider whether it is healthy to continue the friendship. With your family you have to put up with certain differences because you are related, but your friends should be a refuge where you can just be yourself. Hurtful comments do not make your friends bad people, but this might be an indication that the friendship has hit a roadblock that cannot be surpassed. You do not have to end the friendship, but sometimes it is better to bow out if it is becoming hurtful and mutually disrespectful. Just try to remember that many things people say and do are not personal, but that we each react differently to different events and scenarios. Any friendship that makes us feel less is not worth our time or self-esteem. Pursue friendships that bring out the best in yourself and the best in your friends.
How can I stop myself gaining too much weight? I don't want people to laugh at me...
I recommend drinking lots of water. Also eating a variety of fruits and vegetables, along with lean meats, low-fat dairy and whole grains will help. Whole grains, like oatmeal and brown rice will help to fill you up. Drinking a glass of water before a meal will help you to feel full sooner. Whenever you feel hungry, find an activity besides eating, that you enjoy doing. This will help to distract you. Eat every four to five hours and use a smaller plate to ensure a smaller portion size.
When you order a meal, automatically put half of it in a to-go box for later, and eat the remaining half as the meal. Today, “normal” is really super sized.
And don’t forget to exercise. By that, I mean go running and work off all the energy you gain from eating. you’ll lose weight, if you use more energy than you put in.
I occasionally joke about suicide to my friends but what they don't know is that I'm serious about it.
Pease get help! Talk to somebody seriously about it. You can even just call a general hotline. 1-800-273-TALK. If your friends aren’t getting your cues, you need to talk to somebody who will undertand. Please ask somebody for help.
Really, what are you supposed to do with a man's balls? Sucking them is really nasty, so anything else? Is mere fondling enjoyable or just a tease?
--Clueless about Balls
Why is sucking a guy’s balls nasty? Do they smell? Have your man shower before you have sex. Are they too hairy?Have your man shave them. Otherwise, they’re just nuts. They’re also the most sensitive part of the guy’s body, aside from the prostate (if you can’t deal with balls, then you’re so not ready for the prostate). Anyway, light licks and gentle rubbing work well. Many guys don’t enjoy sucking anyway because it often ends up hurting a little, and not in a pleasant way. Whatever you do, do NOT neglect a man’s balls. They are his family jewels and should be treated like jewels - with respect and admiration.
I'm 16 and have been raised by a single mother. I get worried everytime she brings home a new male 'friend'. The latest one is an alcoholic, just like the last three. When I try to point out the pattern, my mom says "So my happiness has to take a backseat to your selfishness?" How can I get her to face reality?
Good for you for getting worried. Above all, pay attention to all these alarm bells and make sure you stay safe; don’t find yourself alone with your moms ‘friends’.
How can you get her to face reality? You can’t. You’re 16. She’s suppose to be raising you, not the other way around. This sitaution is screaming out for the influence of a responsible grown-up. Talk to an aunt or another trusted adult and explain all. Do not go through this one alone.
There is this girl that I have liked for a long time. I have asked her out in the past and was turned down. When I started dating another girl, the other stopped talking to me. I have recently broken up with the other girl, we dated for a little over a month, and when speaking to friends of the first girl, she stopped talking to me because she realized she liked me. I believe I still have feelings for her. How long should I wait to make a move without seeming like I'm on the rebound?
There is no real time to say what is rebound and which is not, If you go into a relationship, make sure you are not thinking about the other girl. That will only cause problems.
Does she still like you? If so, then just be yourself. Hang out as friends for a little while, and then if she put out the vibe that she likes you, then go ahead and ask. Or maybe she will ask you.
One thing you should ask yourself is ‘is she playing mind games with you?’ I only say this because when you asked her out, she turned you down, but then when you got together with another girl, she started likeing you and even stopped talking to you, that shows jealous-ness. I am not saying she is like that, but just make sure you dont set yourself up to be hurt down the road.
Well hope this answers your question and Good luck.
I'm very interested in Acting. My problem is that noone takes me seriously. I'd like to take lessons, but my mother says its too expensive. How can I make people know that this is what I really want to do without them laughing at me?
Try to get involved in your high school drama program. This should be a good start for you. Later on, if you are still serious, you can develop your talents in local drama groups. They are always looking for new people. If you show some talent and stick with it, people will take you seriously and will take you seriously and will even encourage you to continue.
If a guy enjoys being friends AND having sex with other guys but prefers to be emotionally intimate and romantically involved with women, what does that make him?
That makes him bi-sexual or in deniel about being gay. Not sure exactly what you mean by preferring to be emotionally intimate with women—does that mean sex or you prefer to share your feelings with women? If only emotions, then I think he would be considered gay but are not comfortable opening up to men emotionally yet. If he is having sex with women and enjoying it, then my advice is he needs to admit that he is bisexual.
I didn't have any money before the economy tanked and now I'm kinda happy that everyone else is suffering because it makes me feel less bad about my own situation. Does this make me a terrible person?
No, it doesn’t make you a terrible person, but definitely shows that you are a little petty. Sorry, but all this means is that everybody is in a bad situation, yourself included and why that would make you feel better is something worth exploring. Cheer up and try and make things better for yourself to the point where you won’t have to compare yourself to what other people are doing.
My mom remarried two years ago. The night of the wedding I got wasted and came on to my mom's new husband's daughter. She shot me down but then This Thanksgiving we snuck away and had sex three times while our family watched the game. It was totally hot. Part of me feels really bad about what happened, but another part (can you guess which?) is dying to see her. Is what we're doing really all that wrong?
---Horny Guy in LA
Its definitely not illegal but probably not the best idea. Getting into a relationship with your stepsister is kind of awkward for everyone. I would definitely consider that before you go any futher